If you want to see the people in your life, really see them.. Close you eyes, *look* at them as if you are blind, because only then will you see their true colours and see their beauty shine through... You will not be bogged down by whether they are pretty, or handsome, short or tall, fat or thin, you will assess who they are to you based on the way they are with you... not whether they please you visually.
Imagine those around you to not have a body, do not have an age but who consist of pure energy... Now who are you drawn to?
Is it the same people you are drawn to with your eyes open?
If so, well done.
If not, don't worry... most people see the world with their eyes and not their soul... but one day... one day that may change and we will exist together in harmony, truth and in joy. We won't make silly choices based on someone having a cute butt and no substance.
Probably not in this lifetime though, eh?
Monday, 5 December 2011
Soul mates, soul friends and being at one with it all.
Hey there.... wait, don't run off..
Was that your soul that just touched mine?
Or am I confused...
Did I feel something that didn't exist?
Or is that you don't know that was what just happened..
I mean, I get it, I do...
Sometimes a soul connection does not come from a place you wanted it to.
It does not fit with what happens in your head.
In your dreams,
In your perfect scenario.
I'm not what you expected in a soul mate,
And that is fine, I am OK with it...
You're not what I expected either.
It's just that I wanted you to know that I felt it for both of us,
And if that is the way it is, then so be it.
I can be the caretaker of our friendship.
I can be the patient one who waits for you to be comfortable with it.
Or not....
I will always keep that door open for you.
Because you matter to me, because you have been there for me,
because I wanted to allow you to be there and you were.
And because I want you to know that I would happily return the favour,
that you can turn to me with anything and you can trust me with it.
Do not be confused, I expect nothing..
Don't think that soul mate means I expect something you can't give,
that is not what being a soul mate is about....
It's about being at one with someone, understanding them,
being aware of who they are and loving them unconditionally for it.
Without thought for reward or gain, just caring, just because...
Because we *know* each other, because we've known each other before
And because we will know each other again in other lives than this.
I care for you, I like you, love you for who you are without expecting any return on my investment..
You are special.
Was that your soul that just touched mine?
Or am I confused...
Did I feel something that didn't exist?
Or is that you don't know that was what just happened..
I mean, I get it, I do...
Sometimes a soul connection does not come from a place you wanted it to.
It does not fit with what happens in your head.
In your dreams,
In your perfect scenario.
I'm not what you expected in a soul mate,
And that is fine, I am OK with it...
You're not what I expected either.
It's just that I wanted you to know that I felt it for both of us,
And if that is the way it is, then so be it.
I can be the caretaker of our friendship.
I can be the patient one who waits for you to be comfortable with it.
Or not....
I will always keep that door open for you.
Because you matter to me, because you have been there for me,
because I wanted to allow you to be there and you were.
And because I want you to know that I would happily return the favour,
that you can turn to me with anything and you can trust me with it.
Do not be confused, I expect nothing..
Don't think that soul mate means I expect something you can't give,
that is not what being a soul mate is about....
It's about being at one with someone, understanding them,
being aware of who they are and loving them unconditionally for it.
Without thought for reward or gain, just caring, just because...
Because we *know* each other, because we've known each other before
And because we will know each other again in other lives than this.
I care for you, I like you, love you for who you are without expecting any return on my investment..
You are special.
Being true and honest with yourself and with others...
How true and honest are you with yourself and with others?
I mean I think I am pretty honest, but on closer inspection it turns out that honesty is a commodity of convenience. It is something we choose to use on a daily basis but are never more than an inch away from lying to everyone around us.
Of course the most used lie is 'I'm fine', how many times have we said that in the course of even a day when we didn't mean it, it was just easier than saying what you really think or feel?
We use it when we are feeling things we are afraid to admit to ourselves or to other people that it involves.
Mostly it is fear, fear of looking foolish, fear of being rejected, fear even that it might be a good thing to speak up. We worry that people will hold our vulnerabilities against us, we worry that in sharing too much we give people the ammunition they require to hurt us with. It is human nature to protect yourself against hurt, it is also in human nature to run from things that may be wonderful because we fear having what we want, we don't want to burst our own bubble of belief that the world works a certain way and that only certain combinations of life choice will ever work....
When we are happily in a pattern of behaviour and someone or something comes along and challenges what we have accepted for our life, it's easier to hide.... easier to run, than to ever question our here and now. We assume much of others, we assume their motivation comes from something that we may have manifested for ourselves based on past experiences. It's easy to imagine that a past hurt will come back and haunt you, if you ever show who you really are to someone.
It's easy to think someone is *doing* something *to* you, rather than to see that you may, in fact be projecting and super-imposing your fears onto the actions of another. And this is where more lying takes place.. to yourself... You can analyse til you are blue in the face, but unless you are honest and brave and take your courage and say ''Erm, hey.... I noticed this, I felt hurt (upset, betrayed, confused, basically... *insert emotion here*) Is this the way it is?''
And be brave enough to hear the truth.... well, that's the rub, isn't it... we are far more guilty of lying to ourselves to protect our immediate feelings than to say to someone... ''I need to say something to you and I need to be very honest with you and I don't expect something in return, it is just me telling you how I feel without expectation''
Because that is what being true and honest with yourself and with others is about. It isn't about getting what you want, it's about living with your truth and accepting the blessings it brings without fear of embarrassment, pain or any of the other emotions that make us want to retreat. It's about speaking your truth in your life with dignity and with respect for other people that they may not be aware of the fact they have unsettled everything you thought you believed.
It's being one with yourself, with your truth, with the people who matter to you and if they don't respond in a thoughtful and loving way you will know that THEY were the ones lying, not you, about who they are.
Well, that's my first mad ramble.... there you go....
Now, can anyone tell me how to best take my own advice??
I mean I think I am pretty honest, but on closer inspection it turns out that honesty is a commodity of convenience. It is something we choose to use on a daily basis but are never more than an inch away from lying to everyone around us.
Of course the most used lie is 'I'm fine', how many times have we said that in the course of even a day when we didn't mean it, it was just easier than saying what you really think or feel?
We use it when we are feeling things we are afraid to admit to ourselves or to other people that it involves.
Mostly it is fear, fear of looking foolish, fear of being rejected, fear even that it might be a good thing to speak up. We worry that people will hold our vulnerabilities against us, we worry that in sharing too much we give people the ammunition they require to hurt us with. It is human nature to protect yourself against hurt, it is also in human nature to run from things that may be wonderful because we fear having what we want, we don't want to burst our own bubble of belief that the world works a certain way and that only certain combinations of life choice will ever work....
When we are happily in a pattern of behaviour and someone or something comes along and challenges what we have accepted for our life, it's easier to hide.... easier to run, than to ever question our here and now. We assume much of others, we assume their motivation comes from something that we may have manifested for ourselves based on past experiences. It's easy to imagine that a past hurt will come back and haunt you, if you ever show who you really are to someone.
It's easy to think someone is *doing* something *to* you, rather than to see that you may, in fact be projecting and super-imposing your fears onto the actions of another. And this is where more lying takes place.. to yourself... You can analyse til you are blue in the face, but unless you are honest and brave and take your courage and say ''Erm, hey.... I noticed this, I felt hurt (upset, betrayed, confused, basically... *insert emotion here*) Is this the way it is?''
And be brave enough to hear the truth.... well, that's the rub, isn't it... we are far more guilty of lying to ourselves to protect our immediate feelings than to say to someone... ''I need to say something to you and I need to be very honest with you and I don't expect something in return, it is just me telling you how I feel without expectation''
Because that is what being true and honest with yourself and with others is about. It isn't about getting what you want, it's about living with your truth and accepting the blessings it brings without fear of embarrassment, pain or any of the other emotions that make us want to retreat. It's about speaking your truth in your life with dignity and with respect for other people that they may not be aware of the fact they have unsettled everything you thought you believed.
It's being one with yourself, with your truth, with the people who matter to you and if they don't respond in a thoughtful and loving way you will know that THEY were the ones lying, not you, about who they are.
Well, that's my first mad ramble.... there you go....
Now, can anyone tell me how to best take my own advice??
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